I really have to wonder how many other parents with kids on the spectrum have the same experiences I do? Because I know this cannot just be happening to me. While getting my oil changed a while ago I took the time to review J's IEP (Autism super mommy has got to multi-task you know). The elderly gentleman next to me noticed and we had a subsequent conversation during which he called J a "burden" because of his Autism. The really interesting thing is
1. he meant it nicely, I truly believe he meant no offense.
2. I couldn't entirely disagree with him.
3. I wasn't angry at him.
4. I disagreed with him on principal.
Sometimes I think I have "Please talk to me about Autism" sign hung on my face. Have you ever met one of those people that just seem "chatable". Well I'm not one of them. I joke that I'm a social retard but for some reason people do approach me about Autism (with or without my children).
One of the most interesting things is that people ALWAYS steer the conversation towards the "vaccine debate". Inwardly, I'm biting my cheek and focusing on not letting the innovative curse I just thought up leak out verbally. Random citizen says to me, "I'm concerned about getting/giving my child the "ABC" vaccine". I just nod my head noncommittally. At this point here are my options, tell them the truth (which is what I WANT to do), which would go something like this: "ARE YOU FREAKING NUTS, DON'T PUT THAT CRAP IN YOUR BODY/YOUR CHILD'S BODY, DO YOU KNOW WHATS IN THAT SH!T?"! Or option number two, which is what I always do. I say something true without the expletives that shocks of it's own accord. "Its all to profit driven if you asked me" while shaking my head in the no gesture. Then I tell them the number of childhood vaccines mandated today in a wondering tone of voice, "did you know when we were kids they were only ten vaccines?, and our kids have thirty-six mandated vaccines". Without fail people are shocked.
The ironic thing is that people approach me because they suspect. They have heard rumblings, a story here, a news bit there. A cousin friends niece's child had an outrageous fever after a set of shots and was never quite the same. Most people after recovering from the shock of the data, the amount of shots children today are subjected too, nod in stupefied agreement with me. While I may have given them a seed of truth the reality is, it will be smothered by a lifetime of indoctrination. Joe average citizen will go home and forget all the blase conversation that is non-relevant to his life. It's much easier to discredit a total stranger than do your own research, I did. After that, I will go home and add their children to my prayers along with my own children.
Hopefully someday some of the those seeds will take. My sanity act won't be for nothing and some poor child will be spared the equivalent of their own version lethal injection.